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So there I was sitting in my room wasting my time scrolling through the explorer section of Instagram.

I stumbled upon a photo of Kimia Alizadeh, as you may know a martial artist. Right?

Yeah, it was a simple photo of her.

I saw that photo, it was a good photo.

She was smiling, it seemed she was having a good time.

I was like okay, nice.

So let’s read the comment section.

Because I’m an idiot, I love to read things which have nothing to do with my life or me in general.

So here I go and boom.

Not a single nice comment.

Not a single one.

What?!!

So much hate and disrespect.

So this idea came to my mind.

Why not talk about it?

Because one critical element of content creation is that you’re gonna have a lot of haters.

I have had plenty of them over the course of my career.

I still do.

Haters are one of the biggest enemies of your success.

In fact, all successful people in life, in any area of life, they have faced this enemy.

In fact most of them continue to face this enemy.

You find haters everywhere, especially online.

If you go online and find any video or any article with a comment section, in those comments you’ll see haters writing terrible things.

Insulting things.

Haters are everywhere even in our family, workplace… everywhere.

The question is “How to deal with them?”

Some people are worried about criticism, they won’t do anything about it.

They fail to take their chances.

They fail to go for their dreams and

It’s a big…big tragedy.

Because haters are out there.

The more you stand out the more they will come for you.

But why?

‫They have 3 reasons

First– envy

They are frustrated.

They are lazy or have a victim mentality.

“Oh the country is messed up.”

“Oh my father is not rich enough.”

These people are weak.

They are so weak that if you get some attention from your work they’ll start attacking you.

Because they are just jealous.

Second reason - they want to feel superior

There are plenty of people out there afraid of taking their chances.

Afraid of criticism.

They just can’t take criticism.

And because of that they’ll start criticizing other people.

They will do their best to bring you down emotionally and mentally.

Because they couldn’t do what you are trying to do.

Why do they do this?

To feel better, to feel superior.

And number 3 - fear of something new and different

If you act differently, look differently, speak differently, communicate differently, and try different ideas that they are unfamiliar with, they’ll start criticizing you.

This has happened to me a lot.

When I started making content on this page a lot of haters attacked me.

Because the methods I was talking about were different.

There was this girl who called me a clown because I just wanted to make entertaining content.

There was this douchebag who said “first learn to speak Persian then start speaking English” just because I had an accent.

A lot of English institutions and traditional teachers hate on me.

Just because I come here and say most of these textbooks are a huge waste of time.

At first these things got to me.

I remember, I even stopped making content for several days.

But thank god I didn’t stop completely.

Because these conversations are not logical.

Because If I would have stopped there we would have never have Zabanshenas community this amazing family…you guys… you…

Let’s talk about how to deal with them.

Step one - expect and accept critics

It’s human nature.

Some people will feel jealous…Expect it.

It’s not just you!

It happens to everyone who tries to be successful.

And mentally and emotionally accept them.

You can’t just run away from them.

You can’t get rid of them.

You just can’t please everyone.

Just accept it.

It takes some of the power away from them.

Step two – cut off, shut down, block the haters

They want you to react.

They want to see you getting angry.

They want to feel that they have the power to make you feel bad.

Just cut all of them off, block them online.

Don’t waste your time.

Don’t feed the haters.

Starve them.

Because trolls want your attention, that’s their food, don’t give them anything.

Step three - focus on people who love what you do.

Yeah there are gonna be a lot of haters hating you but also there gonna be a lot of amazing people loving what you do.

Put your emotional energy into the positive people who love what you do.

Because they are there for you.

So… you do focus on them.

This is the first phase.

Phase number 2 - It’s the focus on gratitude

Focus on what is good in your life.

Appreciate your health, appreciate your relationship with people.

Your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your husband, your wife, your family…

When you appreciate your life, your family, your work and who in the world would care about the haters?

And the final phase - appreciate the haters

Let me explain.

If you are a total failure. If you do not do anything in life actually no one cares about you.

In fact, it’s the successful people who get criticized all the time.

So the haters are a great sign that you’re on your way to become successful.

But don’t be snobbish.

I’m not saying bad feedback is showing that you are succeeding in life.

I’m saying if you are delivering good things and some people are hating on you then you are on your path to success.

So Mr, Miss Hater.

I love you…

I really do, I love you for the things you did for me.

I just want you to know, you still have a chance to change your life.

So stop it.

But still thank you for everything.

That’s it…

See ya…