Here we go

Some wise words from the man himself…

Kambiz!

yeah alright

that was too much… I know

But you can learn some stuff from me. Right?

Today I’ll rant about my mistakes and

what I’ve learned from them.

Number 1

Never ask women on how to attract other women!

I know. It seems crazy, right?

Women can help you with this.

No, trust me.

Or at least in my experience.

I was one of those guys

who had a tough time talking to girls.

I had a confidence issue.

Usually

I couldn’t keep up the conversation with a girl for so long.

So back in the day I asked some of my Female acquaintances

to give me some advice on how to find girlfriends.

“Just be yourself”

“I am myself but it is not working”

“get her flowers”

“ text her a poem, we girls love poems”

“Are you sure?”

Of course, I didn’t try any of these pieces of advice

or did I?

I remember, I asked one of my guy friends

who was good with girls for advice

and he said:

“ if you like someone just ask them out”

I was like

“ what if they say noooo”

He said “Do you really think that I’ve never been rejected?

Heck!

Thousands of rejections came and hit me in the face.

Who cares?

They are girls and they have a right to say no”

I said:

“ But it’s hard for me to ask a girl face to face”

“ so ask them on social media.

Text them to see if they are interested or not

if they are ask them out.

If they said no say thank you and move on.

If yes

congratulations.”

That was…

That was a… great piece of advice for me.

Number 2

helping people for free

This is great.

Helping others is one of the most important virtues

that I personally follow and value.

But if you help for free

don’t do it for one particular person.

Do it for a bigger social group

so everyone can use your help.

I’ve realized in my personal experience

being nice means being weak.

There were a couple of times

that I tried to help some of my friends

and this happened:

“ Why don’t you help me learn English?”

“ Dude, let’s go to the gym.

I need someone to help me get buff”

This is going to happen all the time.

You give service to one particular person

and they think it is your responsibility to do so.

Which is not.

“But bro… I wanna get buff.”

Always get something from them.

Because if you don’t you’ll feel worthless.

Plus you deserve it

you’re putting your life into it.

“Kambiz, let’s have a Face Time and practice English”

Number 3

Every action doesn’t have a reaction.

In everything

always evaluate how much you can bring to the table.

For instance

you have some skills

you’re good with something.

You work for a company

and you think you deserve more

so ask for it.

because if not

you’ll feel stuck in a hut like a broody chicken

waiting for a none-fertilized egg to hatch.

If you add some value to something

you have to receive some value in return.

In a romantic relationship

you give kindness, emotions, support, and so on…

but your partner is not giving you anything back

what are you gonna do?

you get out and never look back.

Before doing this, you have to talk about your issues.

Because if you don’t

you’ll come up a douchebag who leaves people on read

and never text them back.

What’s up Karim?

Do you remember me? huh?

This brings us to the fourth mistake.

Never talk about your needs.

You want a promotion

ask for it.

If you have a problem talk about it.

If there is something wrong in here

point it out.

People can’t read your mind.

Or sometimes they just don’t care.

If you talk about your issues:

Number 1

they’ll know about it

and they can fix it if they want.

And number 2

you know that they know there is a need or a problem here.

In this case

you did everything you needed

you took your action

now wait for the reaction.

if the reaction is not what you have expected

either you can leave

or cope with it.

trust me

if you are good enough

you don’t need to cope with anything.

Know your value!

that’s it!