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Most of us

have something on our task list to avoid doing…

like studying English using Zabanshenas.

Working out…

The project you’ve been putting off…

or a call to an old friend of yours.

You name it…

But today we’ll learn how to stop it.

so stay tuned.

We often spend our days doing everything

but the hard things we don’t want to do.

We’ll research something to death

instead of doing the actual thing.

Like how to study English…

if you are following Zabanshenas

you know how to start…

We’ll talk about it, read about it,

buy all the equipment we need,

but not actually do the thing.

We’ll do our email, messages, small tasks,

checking the social media or the news

but never do the thing.

You know why?

because we are afraid of uncertainty.

We don’t want to feel like

we don’t know what we’re doing.

We don’t wanna look stupid or overwhelmed.

We don’t want to look like failure or a loser.

We are protecting ourselves from this feeling.

And that is why

we run away from it….

So the question is

“how to actually do the thing?

Number 1

Realize you’re avoiding it

Yeah I’m talking to you,

stop day-dreaming…

stop checking what your aunt is

doing on the social media.

Stop chatting with people

when you have to start doing…

just realize

that you are avoiding the elephant in the room.

This is called Self-awareness.

You wanna be aware of your actions

instead of ignoring them.

Number 2

tell someone about it

This one a little optional.

But if you tell someone,

you are putting yourself in a situation

that if you avoid doing the thing,

you’ll feel ashamed for not doing it.

Does that make sense?

Let me tell you more.

Let’s say you have a friend named Marco…

He’s Italian and super loud.

You tell him,

“ I wanna learn English”

Marco will say “Oh mamma mia, this is Fantastic…”

Next year Marco will show up

and asks you

“Did you learn my friend?

And if you say no

he’s gonna give you a burst

of loud Italian laughter…

Oh, you are stupid my friend!

This is fantastic!

It is hard to take that.

So study the damn thing.

Number 3

Set a deadline for it

A goal without a destination

is like walking in the desert looking for water…

What was that example for?

I don’t know,

But I know one thing for sure.

If you don’t set a tangible deadline,

you won’t do that thing.

Say I have to finish this project

on the 10th of April or something…

And finish it.

Number 4

Try to do it with somebody.

Remember if you spend time with someone

who is focused

you have no other choice but to stay focused.

So

Find someone to do the project

or that activity with.

Number 5

small victories

Our brain is wired to do the simple things faster.

So instead of forcing yourself

to do the whole thing,

divide them up into small chunks.

Let’s say today you wanna study English

for 2 hours.

Instead of studying it for 2 hours straight,

You can do it in four 30-minute sessions.

When you do it this way,

you’re giving your brain small victories

and this is going to help you stay motivated

to do more and try more.

Okay that’s it.

Do you wanna study English?

try using Zabanshenas ,

check out the link in bio

or this link.

Don’t forget to save this post and like it

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That’s it!

Cheers!