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You have a great partner, you guys are happy, you love each other and everything is awesome, and like every other relationship, yours is not that flawless.

You check Instagram, see your friend’s story, they are recording a dubsmash and laughing and it seems they’re having the life of their dreams.

So you get a little jealous.

Maybe your partner is not as hot as theirs.

Maybe you guys are not as rich as they are, maybe it’s a simple thing, your partner is not into recording dubsmash…

So you get annoyed and start comparing yourself to these people.

This can happen in almost everything.

You have a decent body but damn that Instagram model has a six-pack.

But look at your belly,

People can sit on top of that.

Your English is fantastic, you’ve installed Zabanshenas using the link in bio or this link.

Yo mama you’re improving so freaking fast… but… your cousin speaks English like she’s lived her whole life in America.

The story goes on and on…

But stop it. Enough…

If you take people’s strengths and compare them to your weaknesses, how do you think you’d size up?

And plus do you really think this would make you feel good?

The funny thing is that, this is what most of us do at one time or another — and some of us do pretty often.

You know what is funnier?

Most of these comparisons are not fair.

Yeah, your cousin speaks English pretty well, but you have to take this into consideration that she’s been this for about 10 years.

You? But you only 10 months.

Ladies and gentlemen you are awesome and that’s important.

Being able to see your own strengths and true value is vital.

That’s why I’m here to be your mirror, to help you see your true potential real potential.

Let’s take a look at what’s wrong with comparing yourself to others:

Number 1.

Most of these comparisons are unfair.

Because you are comparing your weaknesses to people’s strengths

Number 2.

Even if you compare strength to strength, there will always be those who are better and those who are worse.

Number 3.

Even if you do well in comparison with others, it’s gonna be a short-lived boost of ego.

That/ the ego is gonna be dangerous because life will knock you down at some point.

Number 4.

You end up resenting people for doing really well, without really knowing the true person.

Number 5.

You might end up talking about your own accomplishments more than necessary.

Number 6.

You might criticize people in public, trying to put them down, often unfairly which makes you a total A-hole.

These are horrible… but yo Kambiz how to stop this?

1. Be aware

Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we’re doing it. It’s a natural act.

But don’t let it stay unconscious.

Make it a conscious act and be aware of what you’re doing.

1. Stop yourself.

Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give it a pause.

Don’t beat yourself up and feel bad.

Just acknowledge it and change the focus.

1. Count your blessings.

Count what you have not what you don’t.

Of course, you don’t have a six-pack but you have two amazing guns to kill some birds.

Yes, you are not so fluent in English but damn you can read books in Zabanshenas with ease and lots of enjoyment.

You don’t have the hottest girl or guy as your emotional/relationship partner but they love you so much.

He cracks a joke that you laugh uncontrollably.

She has the most beautiful eyes that you die for.

1. Focus on your strengths

Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on what you have.

Yeah, maybe your father didn’t buy you an SUV, but recently you bought a pride with your own hard-earned money.

You are freaking self-made. What are you talking about?

Maybe you don’t have an upturned nose, okay but you have the most beautiful eyes on earth.

Appreciate it dammit.

Be proud of them, celebrate them.

Don’t brag, but feel good about what you have.

1. Be OK with imperfection

No one in the whole world is perfect.

Intellectually we know this but emotionally we feel bad about everything.

Ladies and gentlemen, you are awesome but not perfect.

I’m not perfect.

We won’t get perfect.

But being awesome means constant improvement.

Your body will get better, your English will get better, your relationship with people, your loved ones will get better.

But nothing is gonna be perfect.

1. Ladies and gentlemen, we are on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create.

This journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have.

It has everything to do with what we want to do, where we want to go.

That’s all you need to worry about.

And last but certainly not least:

1. Learn to love it when it’s enough.

If you want what others have, you will never have enough.

You will always want more.

That’s an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness.

No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own, no matter how many fancy cars you acquire.

Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough.

If you have a shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed.

You have enough.

Anything you have over and above that is more than enough.

Be good with that and you’ll find contentment.

That’s it. See ya.