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Emotionally Intelligent Husbands – Point-of-view Lesson

Okay, welcome to the mini-story point-of-view lesson for the emotionally intelligent husbands. Same story, we’re gonna change a little bit. First, let’s tell the story in the past, 20 years ago. Here we go

20 years ago, there was a guy named Bob. Bob was a newlywed. He and his wife Kathy had been married only two months.

Unfortunately, Bob was an authoritarian husband. Every day he would tell Kathy, “cook my food, clean this house, Serve me woman!” Bob felt he was entitled to be served like a king, by his wife.

Now His wife, Kathy, was a very sweet wife. She was very sensitive and she emoted strongly. She always showed her true feelings. Kathy had had a strict upbringing.

Her mom had told her to always obey her future husband. Since she had strong moral fiber, Kathy tried to do what her mom had taught. But every day she became more sad because of Bob.

Finally, she yelled at him with righteous indignation, “Shut up you pig! I want a divorce”. Bob was so shocked he had a heart attack and died. But after he was dead nobody mourned. Kathy took his life insurance money and now today she is still very rich, free and happy.

Okay, good. Pause please, go back and listen to that version a few times until you fully understand how it changed, and then pause and tell it yourself. Tell it in the past tense, starting with the phrase 20 years ago. Now actually, you will notice every verb it’s not in the past tense. Some verbs are in different tenses.

Don’t worry about the names of the tenses. Just listen carefully, notice how they change, and then you can pause after each sentence if you need to and repeat, or you can pause after all of the story and try to tell the entire story, beginning with the phrase 20 years ago.

Alright, let’s jump to the future now. I have a new movie idea, science-fiction movie and it’s going to be in 2050. I’m gonna tell you about my movie idea. Here we go.

In the year 2050, there will be a guy named Bob. Bob will be a newlywed. He and his wife will have been married only two months.

Unfortunately, Bob will be an authoritarian husband. Every day he will tell Katy, “cook my food, clean this house, serve me woman!” Bob will feel, he is entitled to be served like a king by his wife.

Now Kathy will be a very sweet wife. She’s gonna be very sensitive and she is going to emote strongly. She’ll always show her true feelings. Kathy will have had a strict upbringing. Her mom will have told her to always obey her husband.

Since she will has strong moral fiber, Kathy will try to do what her mom taught. But every day, she will become more sad because of Bob.

Finally, she is gonna yell at him with righteous indignation. “Shut up you pig! I want a divorce”. Bob is gonna be so shocked he will have a heart attack and then he’s gonna die.

After that, nobody is going to mourn him, nobody will mourn Bob. Kathy will take his life insurance money and then she is gonna be very happy she will be very happy because she’ll be free and she’ll be rich.

All right, very good. So that obviously is using the future, right? We’re talking about the year 2050.

Now you notice I sound like I made a mistake there, but actually I started using the present tense and then I switched to using future. That’s okay. Actually in English, sometimes when we talk about the future, sometimes we use the present tense. So actually in many cases you can use both.

I changed because I wanted to keep using future tense only, so just to help you remember it. But in fact, when we talk about future, you can sometimes use the present tense. So don’t let that confuse you.

Alright, now let’s tell it one more time. I’m going to begin the story with the phrase since 2 months ago, okay? Since 2 months ago, starting 2 months ago, Okay.

Since 2 months ago, there has been a couple named Bob and Kathy who are newlyweds. Unfortunately, Bob has been an authoritarian husband during these 2 months.

Every day he has yelled at Katy, “cook my food, clean this house, Serve me woman!” During this time, this 2 months, Bob has felt he is entitled to be served like a king by his wife.

Now Kathy, his wife, she is a very sweet woman. She’s very sensitive and she has always emoted strongly. She has always showed her true feelings to Bob. Kathy, in the past, had a strict upbringing. Her mom told her to always obey her future husband.

Now Since she has strong moral fiber and during this 2 months, she has had strong moral fiber, Kathy has tried to do what her mom taught. But every day, she has become more sad because of Bob.

Finally, one day she’s sick of it. Finally, one day, she yells at him and she yells at him with righteous indignation. She says, “Shut up you pig! I want a divorce”. well, Bob is so shocked he has a heart attack and dies. But after he is dead, nobody mourns. Kathy takes his life insurance money and she is now very happy.

Okay, you’ll noticed in that one I use ‘have had’, ‘have gone’ in the beginning. Whenever I’m talking about during the last 2 months, since 2 months ago, it means staring 2 months ago and continuing all up until now.

Any time I’m talking about something that has continued… that started 2 months ago and has continued until now, I’m using have gone, have had, right?

But then I changed to the present tense. I say Finally, one day… okay? Now I changed to the present tense. I could change to the past tense. I could have said finally one day, she yelled at him “shut up you pig” and then Bob was so shocked. Or then I could tell that the rest of the story… the end of the story could be in the past tense, if I say that happened in the past.

I decided to tell it in the present tense, meaning I started 2 months ago, I come up until now. The end of the story is told in the present tense. The end of the story is happening recently. But beginning of the story I’m using… I’m talking about what has happened during this whole time, during the period that started in the past 2 months ago and has continued until recently.

Okay, again don’t think too much about the grammar terms. You don’t need to know present perfect, past perfect. That’s not important.

What I want you to do is listen many times to each version, pause, go back, listen again. Then try maybe, repeat or copy individual sentences. Then try to repeat and copy, telling all of the story, all of the version using the beginning phrases. 20 years ago is version number 1. Version number 2 in 2050. And version number 3 since 2 months ago.

Alright, good luck. See you next time, bye-bye