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Recently I’ve had an Instagram live session about

four fears we face when speaking English.

and there

I promised you guys to make an exclusive video about them.

Because I’m sure most of you guys missed that live video

because I couldn’t save it…

Anyway, let’s start with a Why question

Why should we learn about these fears?

If you know these fears

you’ll figure out a way to overcome them.

It’s gonna be far, far easier for you

to take that freaking fear

and punch it in the face and say:

“You can’t do anything anymore

because Yo mama, I’m onto you.”

After recognizing the fears

you can make a plan to practice.

Because overcoming these fears

is not just baam snap of a finger

Kambiz made a video,I watched it and done!

It’ll take some practice and lots of repetition.

Alright now that you know the reasons

let’s talk about the fears.

Fear number 1

What if I don’t know enough words…

Let’s look at it this way.

Speaking is used for a lot of things.

One of them is to find out how many words you know.

So if you are afraid to use the words

because you’re not sure about your abilities..

then you’ll never find out if they’re enough.

But again

I’m not here to make you frustrated by being sarcastic.

I’m here to give you tips.

Tip 1:

try to activate your vocabulary

using authentic and real content.

What do I mean?

When it comes to vocabulary we have four stages of learning.

Number one

I don’t know this word.

Number two

Hmmm..

I know this somehow but I’m not sure…

Number three

When I hear or read it, I understand it…

These are called inactive words.

Number four

Not just I understand it but I can use it.

These are called active words.

When a word reaches this stage

it means you can use it in your speech or writing.

The majority of the words we know are inactive

which is totally fine.

We mostly understand…

Maybe I know 25000 words in Persian

but I usually use only 5000 thousand of them

So I have 20000 inactive words

and 5000 active words.

But I can increase the number of active words I know

by extensive reading…

OH my goodness

The beauty and the benefits of this method

are beyond imagination.

You read, you enjoy and at the same time

you activate and learn a lot of words.

Because:

one

You are repeating the words you already know

Number two

You pick up new words from the context of your reading

and listening material.

Number three

If you choose something which is compelling

and comprehensible to you,

you’ll get into the flow state.

You are going to enjoy it so much

that you’ll forget you’re reading that in English.

For example

I’m reading this amazing book named

7 habits of highly effective people by Steven Covey.

I understand at least 85% of this book.

I enjoy reading it. So it’s totally compelling to me.

I’m repeating and learning through a real authentic context.

So I learn the natural way.

The way my brain enjoys and works…

By the way

if you are interested in reading this book and hundreds more

install Zabanshenas on your phone using the link in bio

or this link.

Tip number two

use the words you already know…

Studies have shown

that language learners roughly need 2000 words

to be able to speak the language.

You gotta take this into consideration

that you gotta learn these words through context

so that you can use them in real life.

If you have learned new words through context

and you know about 2000 words

a vocabulary of this size

makes the basic conversation possible.

So speak

Enjoy speaking.

Tip number 3

use your body.

You don’t know how to say “I need to go to a restaurant”?

Do this

Do not underestimate the power of your body.

We are done with the first one

let’s talk about the second one…

Fear number two

What if I stutter and embarrass myself?

Dude? Really?

Look

I’m introverted and I AM SHY… okay?

Let’s imagine you say hello to a tourist on the street

And then you’re lost for words…

what’s gonna happen?

Nothing…

you just excuse yourself and go…

Hello

excuse me

You are not going to see that guy ever again.

By the way

these are some tips you can use

Tip number 1

grow some confidence using social media.

Social media is a great place for you

to practice your English.

Find some platforms

and there You can find the good peers .

If you are into Football go and join online football clubs

If you are into fashion

go and join some online fashion groups.

There you can use your English in a place you enjoy the most

and your peers are there for the same purpose.

How does it get better than this?

When you’ve used English enough, you feel better

and more confident,

then you’ll get out there and speak some more…

Tip 2

Act out

I love this one.

I don’t need to explain it…

right Sam?

Yeah, I do agree man…

What about me?

Yeah you too…

Try to have fun.

Is there any movie character you like?

imitate them. Try to be them…

like me when I tried to imitate Tuco from Breaking Bad

back in the day

we’re gonna make a lot of money man

This is going to make your English more enjoyable to use.

when you enjoy using something

tell me

why do you have to be shy about it?

Unless….it’s a drug…

Tip number 3

Get a grip.

Come on guys. Don’t beat yourself up.

Most of this shyness is in your head.

You are making it impossible for yourself.

Do you know how effective self-talk is?

Last year I finished reading a fantastic book

named Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins…

using Zabanshenas of course

He’s a Marathon runner

and definitely the toughest man in the world.

He was a Navy SEAL and is now retired.

In his book he said something which struck a chord with me.

He said in one of his marathons he’d been struggling so hard

he started talking to himself.

He kept telling himself “come on David, you can do it!”

He was motivating himself.

Sometimes he even cursed himself…

So you can see how powerful self-talk can be…

then stop saying “I’m shy

It’s impossible…,I can’t…”

If you say these words, you are blocking the solutions.

Instead say

I can

It’s possible…

Start with yourself.

Let’s talk about fear number three

what if I goof up?

You won’t… trust me.

Nobody cares…nobody

In real life. Real conversation nobody cares.

Ans that’s not going to happen.

In fact, If you wanna learn a language

you have to make a lot of mistakes.

trust me.

anyway. Tip number one

practice the most common scenarios

You wanna go to a restaurant?

Practice the conversations that may occur at a restaurant.

Are you ready to order sir?

Yes, I’d like to have a pizza.

How about drinks?

Just water?

And dessert?

No thanks.

see?

You are practicing it.

you’re more prepared when the time comes.

Is it possible for you to have

a different conversation with the staff?

sure But at least you loaded your guns beforehand.

Sometimes the gun won’t function.

Trust me the waiter doesn’t care.

his life is already tough

alright?

He’s too busy to make fun of your English.

Tip number 2:”use this”

I can pronounce it…alright?

just can’t

mispronounce it all the time. So please

use this

Damn, technology is improving so freaking fast…

I just can’t believe it.

There are some amazing bots out there,

they can speak with ya like a real person.

you can try Mondly.

freaking awesome.

And the last fear

what if I make someone upset

I totally get it.

You are amazing

amazing people don’t want to make others sad.

So here are some tips to you to stay amazing

Tip number 1

always have a smile on your face

No matter how amazing your English is,

you are a non-native speaker.

So when you speak to a native speaker

they’ll be more considerate…

If you make a mistake having smile in your face

it’s less likely for them to get offended…

But be careful not to say something extreme like

“yoooo you’re ugly”

In that case

your amazing grin will turn into a toothless smile…

because….

Tip 2

learn to apologize

It’s best if you know how to apologize.

Don’t you know? It’s fine.

Try to Watch this video from Aref

Okay, ladies and gentlemen.

Let’s conclude this video with this amazing quote

from Will Smith

God placed the best things in life

on the other side of fear

Peace…